If you live in the area, please join me for a presentation “Parenting After A Loss” on Wednesday, November 19th from 7:00-8:00 p.m. at Childish Things Consignment located at 3183 Walnut St., Boulder, Colorado.
Parenting After a Loss: Have you experienced pregnancy and/or infant loss, and are you parenting living children now? If so, this talk is for you! Are you curious about how your loss(es) affects how you parent your living children? Do you struggle to answer the question, “how many children do you have?” Do you find yourself worrying more about your living children? These questions and many more reside in the hearts and minds of babyloss and child-loss parents. Join us for an engaging discussion about the unique joys and sorrows that come with parenting after a loss. All talks at Childish Things are free to attend.
Did you know – October is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month?!? It easily gets lost in the sea of other things to be aware of this month, like breast cancer and HIV/AIDS. I know this month is not forefront and center in my mind as babyloss awareness month, even though my own baby died. I can’t say I particularly connect to this month, and yet I appreciate that it exists and that babyloss are families working to raise awareness to educate others about our losses. It’s important, critical work if the stigma attached to babyloss is going to change. In particular this month, October 15th is the wave of light day where people can light a candle at 7:00 pm for an hour. If people across the world do this (during their time zone), a continuous wave of light will shine across the earth in a sweet babyloss remembrance glow. Each of us deserve to take moments for our dead baby… to remember, mourn, celebrate, acknowledge – whatever emotion and/or need is speaking to your heart. We probably don’t do this often enough, for various reasons. Whether it’s due to lack of outside support, a busy life, other children, spouses, people to care for, work, dinner to make, a workout at the gym, whatever – life is full, busy and demanding. Despite our most tragic loss, the world around us keeps moving. And yet, we need to make time for ourselves, for our grief, for our needs. So this month, if joining in efforts to raise awareness about babyloss speaks to your heart, do something. Join the Facebook page, write to your baby, write to your family and friends to let them know what your journey is like, make cupcakes for your baby, light a candle, go for a walk … Do whatever speaks to you and your baby. It is your relationship with your baby, on your terms, that is most important.
For me, I’ll be lighting a candle on October 15th at 7:00 p.m. In memory of my baby girl. And I’ll be thinking about all the other babyloss parents out there too. My heart is with each of you.